Someone asked me if I was “happy” the other day and I said that, on the whole, I was genuinely happy about my life; satisfied is another useful word that seems to “fit” snugly; neatly perhaps.
But, as you imagine I tried to make a list of things that have helped me become more happy over the years — hopefully it’s helpful:
- Be clear on your “Yes” and your “No” and your “Not anymore!”
- You cannot escape your “Default Settings”; the more quickly you learn to love yourself in a comprehensive way, the more happier you’ll become.
- Goals are useful but only if they are actually yours; not someone else’s.
- Productivity “looks” and “feels” different for every single person. Find the right look / feel and then optimize.
- Simple systems work best; Occam’s razor is very useful. This simplifies decision making which makes me happy because I don’t waste time.
- Self-care is important; prioritizing this has taken nearly 4 decades, but, I am more happy now with my systems than I was when I was younger.
- Having a few friends who really know me has made me happier than being “widely known” or sub-culturally famous; the latter has a true hollowness to it.
- Your physical environment dramatically improves happiness; iterate daily.
- Having an authentic, personal mission has made me more happy; I definitely recommend spending intentional time trying to “land” this plane.
- There are no real rules to becoming sustainably happy.
What about you?