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How to beat the fear of putting yourself out there

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    Although a nice article on itself, I think it goes too quickly over the point of conditioning. Your response of today is rooted in yesterday's experience. Some of us here have been conditioned to a negative response (think CPTSD, whether it's from childhood or toxic workplaces). Recognizing the source of the anxiety (what interaction with whom) will go a long way in trying to alleviate it.

    Imagine being a kid, proud of a sand castle they've built and wanting to show their parents. What if these parents run through it as response? That'll be an experience they keep for life, and be damned if they are proud of anything ever again, let alone show it to others.

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    i liked that yellow box with the stars around it, halfway down the page. is that to increase dwell time?

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      No idea, we don't really tune for stats like that.

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    Cool post! Great idea for sharing your learning. After running a services business for three years and trying a few failed online businesses, I don't really have this fear anymore.

    All I can is the more you work this muscle the less it matters. That plus the fact that everybody is too busy worrying about their own fears to care much about yours. Heck, I just did another thing here: https://www.indiehackers.com/post/calling-all-parents-90c700c236

    I do feel some level of imposter syndrome like, "does the world really need another newsletter?" or "maybe what I know or am interested in is just too obscure for anybody to care?"

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      Thanks!

      FWIW, I don't think that's impostor syndrome. When a question is easily disproven with evidence it's just the same mental chaos monkey responding to uncertainty.

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    "What will happen?"
    "I'm too shy to share"
    "People will say I'm stupid"
    "I'm not ready to accept people commenting about my life"

    Those fears came to my mind before I share my personal/professional story.

    But being more active on IH made me feel how this great community is about: compassionate, lovely people willing to help. And also loads looking for help.

    Then, one day, I decided to go ahead and tell more about myseslf, as part of my "giving back" mentality. I'd be able to help more and more people with my story.

    At the end, I received tons of nice comments. I've been able to help more people, making them aware of possible problems. Getting help from others....I'm never exhausted of being on IH, share my learnings and help others.

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      "What will happen?"
      "I'm too shy to share"
      "People will say I'm stupid"
      "I'm not ready to accept people commenting about my life"

      Same here! I still have almost everything inside, thinking about what people will say.

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