Hi fellow indie hackers,
I wanted to share my approach to self-discipline.
There are so many things in my day to day life I would like to create a habit for. If I would start all those activities, no matter how small they are, simultaneously my day would be filled. That's why I pick 1 thing I would like to make a habit and I will do it for 1 month. This month I will meditate 30 consecutive days.
Now you can start meditating and try to be like a Tibetan monk and meditate for an hour a day, but I can promise you that every day will feel like you have to climb the Mount Everest. You are not used to your new habit yet, otherwise, it would be a habit already. That's why it's important to start very small. Even doing your new habit for a minute a day can get your mind used to the fact of DOING your habit. Because eventually this one minute, or maybe five, will get easy after one month, and this is an indicator of your progression towards your new habit.
To make your goal more fun you can create a tick sheet. A tick sheet is a sheet where you can put a checkmark for every day you executed your new habit. The game is about not breaking the chains of checkmarks. You are allowed to have one day off, of your habit, once a week. For that day you write down an R for Rest. The game is to not break the chain of checkmarks and Rs for the entire month. If you did your habit 6 days a week with 4 resting days you should end up with 26 checkmarks and 4 Rs. My advice is also to print out the tick sheet and put it in your bedroom or bathroom. I've tried some digital apps but I truly noticed that I didn't open the app after a week anymore, despite the notification it sent me daily. I tent to get notification blind after a while and I think I'm not alone.
If after 30 days you feel like dropping your habit immediately, consider two things. Is this habit truly beneficial for my life or is it something I truly hate? I have tried to integrate doing a cold shower every day but, especially in the winter, I hated it so much I couldn't keep the habit... But for my meditation habit, something I really like to do and need, I want to take it to a higher level next month. This month I'm doing a minimal of 5 minutes or more and if I don't break the chain for this month I will increase the minimal time for next month. Also being held accountable by someone works pretty good for me. Make a bet with someone that you will keep your promise and keep doing the darn habit for 30 days!
I'm curious about discipline strategies from you guys and please let me know what you think of this strategy!