I've been doing a lot of end-of-the-year reflecting, and it has made me wonder about other people and their life partners or families, and how they've handled the whole "startup on the side" or "side hustle" thing. Bringing my (I say "skeptical", he says "realistic") husband along for the ride has been hugely challenging for both of us. I really believe in what I'm working on, and I believe that the tremendous amount of time and energy I'm pouring in to my startup will ultimately pay off. He believes in ME, but is less optimistic. And given that it's taken me a while to figure out how to achieve some semblance of balance - relationship, job, startup, other side hustle, personal health, and all the other stuff of life - there have been moments along the way that have felt pretty bumpy.
I first started getting serious about scratching my entrepreneurial itch in late 2016. Four years later, I'm now on startup #2 (the first one was a failure, a.k.a. a learning experience), and have also been side-hustling to build up freelance income in order to reach a place where I can take the leap to go full-time on the startup. I'm still burning the candle at both ends (especially the "super early morning" end), but I FINALLY feel like I'm doing a better job of regularly making time to just relax and hang out with my husband, without feeling like I should be working on startup stuff, instead. As a result, I'm finding that there's a lot less tension and a lot more support coming from him, and it's easier for me to share the ups and downs and talk about what I'm working on, as opposed to feeling like I almost need hide to hide all of the work I'm doing in an attempt to minimize the impact of my startup pursuits on our shared life together.
I listen to a lot of podcasts about entrepreneurs, and so many talk about how critically important their supportive spouse or partner was to their success... but you don't often hear about how they GOT to that place of support. I can't imagine that it was easy or instant, in every case.
Has anyone else struggled to achieve balance, or felt like their partner resented their startup or side hustle?
(It goes without saying, I think, that I'm not a 20-something single guy... I'm a 38yr old woman with a wonderful husband who did NOT realize that he was marrying someone with an entrepreneurial streak, because I didn't realize it myself! And I'd like to emerge from this adventure with both a thriving business AND a happy relationship.) :)
Any wisdom to share?