Cultivate has launched!

Hi IH!

Never wonder how to show up for the people you love. That's the whole idea behind Cultivate. We all want to be a better spouse, a more present parent, a friend who actually follows up. The hard part isn't the want — it's finding time for intentionality and knowing what to actually do with it on a random Tuesday when you're busy and the moment's already slipping by.

So I built Cultivate to close that gap.

How it works

Every relationship you add gets its own ring — like Apple's Activity Rings, but for the people in your life instead of your steps. Show up for someone — a real conversation, a completed goal, a moment of actual presence — track it and the ring fills. Let it go quiet, and you'll feel that too. It's a simple, honest way to see where your attention is actually going, not just where you meant it to go. Cultivate helps you develop a plan for each relationship and actually stick to it.

What's actually in it

250+ pre-built plans across marriage, parenting, friendship, extended family, mentorship, and work relationships — real goals with real timing, not vague advice

A full character-building library for parents — 20 traits (honesty, courage, kindness, resilience, and more), each with age-specific plans from toddlerhood through 18

Brainstorm — stuck on what to do for someone? Get a personalized idea in seconds, tailored to who they are to you

Build your own plans if you don't see what you need

Today view — everything due across every relationship you're tracking, in one place

What it's not

It's not a to-do app wearing a relationship costume. Every plan exists because it actually helps a relationship — not because it fills a checklist.

On privacy

Cultivate works entirely on your device. No account, no ads, no subscription — just a one-time unlock. Your relationships are yours; they never leave your phone.

I'd love for you to try it and tell me what you think — especially if you're a parent like me, because I invested a lot in identifying meaningful plans to help parents cultivate character in their kids!