I started to follow 5 mottos/principles I should never break and I never did
"I am the cause of, and the solution to, most of my problems" is one of the mottoes I live by. In every situation I encounter, I know that the root of the problem and its solution are in my hands.
Whether it's a toxic relationship, low confidence, or lack of knowledge, I take responsibility for finding a solution.
If I am in a toxic relationship, it's my responsibility to move on. If I feel too skinny, I can choose to eat more and bulk up.
If I lack knowledge in a certain area, I can seek out resources to learn and grow.
This is how I strive to live my life, with a set of guiding principles that help me navigate challenges. I believe it's important for everyone to have their own mottos or principles to follow, to cultivate a healthy and fulfilling life.
“No one’s coming”
You are the only person who can take the initiative. If you need a chair to sit at your table, you must find it yourself because no one else will come to help you.
No one will come to your home every day to wake you up and make you work out.
No stranger will encourage you to talk to that special someone or ask them out. And unless you order it, no one will bring a salad to your table.
This is why you need to adopt a second motto: There are uncomfortable things that you must do to get to where your future self wants to be. No one cares about you as much as you care about yourself.
"Love isn't something that you find, Love is something that finds you"
I am someone who craves love. I want to be in a romantic relationship so badly, but it's hard to find these days. I started to get attached to someone toxic, and after that phase ended with that person, I was so depressed. That's when one of my friends told me this - 'Stop trying to find love in everyone you meet. Love isn't something that you find, love is something that finds you.' It literally cleared my mind.
So, from that moment onward, I kept on reading this motto until it was carved into my heart and mind. This motto is something I wish I could have heard when I was involving myself with my ex.
"Discipline sets you free"
When I was younger, I used to think that having a disciplined life meant being like a prisoner - with set times for sleeping, eating, and bathing. But as I grew up, I realized that we all have a minimum obligation to try not to be a burden on earth, society, and our families.
To achieve this, it's good to be functional and productive. Sometimes, I struggle with depression. So, to keep myself on track, I wake up at a set time and complete my morning routine.
This way, I have my entire day ahead of me to do whatever I want, even if it's just sleeping. At least I won't be smelling like a hobo and causing discomfort to others.
This same principle applies to students. By being disciplined and completing homework early, you can enjoy a stress-free day.
"You're not a loser. You just lose sometimes."
I realized that failing at something isn't the same as being a failure. I don't define myself by my shortcomings. From the beginning of the school year to the college end year, I was afraid of failure and everyone around me reinforced that fear.
The teacher taught me to never come last, and my parents told me ‘Look at your friend, be is the topper, learn something from him‘.
I followed their advice and avoided failure as much as possible, compared myself way too much but I now admit that was a mistake.
I realized after years that failure is a guest teacher, an opportunity to learn from past mistakes. Instead of running away from it, I should face it and learn the lesson it's trying to teach me.
That's why this motto is considered one of the most important ones you have in life.
'Learn from your mistakes' is crucial for both you and me to achieve success.
"Why not?" Or "ehhh fuck it"
I used to be the kind of person who would question myself a hundred times before doing anything out of the ordinary. It was like my mind was warning me, much like in an old horror movie where a grandma warns you not to go near a room because there's something terrible inside.
But after taking a risk and doing something different from the norm, I understood that grandma was saying, "Never go near that room, there's only gold and diamonds inside."
I distinctly remember the day I decided to learn programming and become an entrepreneur after college. Despite the warnings from those around me, I took the leap and have been doing it for 2.5 years now. I've created value in thousands of people's lives with my skills and services, and I'm still doing it today.
This change in mindset and willingness to take risks has helped me find the passion I was looking for.
It made me realize that Passion is not something you should actively seek out. Instead, it's something that comes to us when we give value to people's lives with what we know and have learned.
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