“In one of my first pitch meetings ever, I pitched to this guy who said, ‘You’ve got to be less humble. You’ve got to be more aggressive. Prove to the investors that you’re really hungry and that you’re really wanting to build something big.’ You know, when he said that, I flashed back to all these things I know about how women are perceived when we’re being aggressive - like we’re seen as bossy, basically. But I took pieces of his advice. It all felt really unnatural at first because my default demeanor is to just be kind, and sort of curious and humble. So it definitely wasn’t something I could do immediately, I had to practice it. My co-founder gave me feedback too, and now I’m better at pitching. I’m more commanding and sort of more intense when I’m at the office than I am in my personal life. The Julia I am with my friends is different than the CEO Julia, and I’m happy with that."
"I’m more commanding and sort of more intense when I’m at the office than I am in my personal life. The Julia I am with my friends is different than the CEO Julia, and I’m happy with that."
That's an excellent way to achieve balance in your life and relationships. Everyone has different roles to play in their lives and it's important to not have one single area dominate or define you. You can most certainly be an ambitious, demanding CEO and a caring, thoughtful friend at the same time.
Best of luck to you!
Thanks for sharing this story. I know there are different expectations and social interactions between men and women, but I really believe everyone can learn from your story.
Am I rephrasing it correctly if I state that "it's about showing your passion and eagerness for something so people know you really believe in it and want to go for it with all you've got"?