Look for an object that you see everyday. Whenever unwanted thoughts come into your mind, stare a few secs at the object and remember to "reset".
1-2 mins, a few times per day: 3 deep breaths. Then breathe normally and count it. Count reached 10? Start again.
Walking? 🚶♀️
• Feel how your feet touch the ground
Cooking? Drinking coffee? 🍲☕️
• Notice the different smells
Playing with kids? 🤹
• Give them full attention
Have you ever meditated? What are the benefits it brings for you?
I meditate every day for years.
It helps me not to follow all the emotions I have. It gives you this millisecond to think, before the emotion take a total control: "I'll get angry now. It's not good to be angry, for anybody. Let's move on."
Many people think meditation is "not thinking to anything". It's not true. Meditation is thinking (and you'll think most of the time, except if you're a Tibetan monk training in the Himalaya 7 hours / day for 50 years).
The goal is too look at your thinking from an external point of view, accepting them, and let them pass. More you'll do it, the more you'll be aware about your own emotions, the less you'll follow them blindly.
What is difficult is to admit that we don't have so much control on our thinking and our emotions. It's hard, but it's true.
Here's a resource I find interesting: https://www.holybooks.com/wp-content/uploads/Buddha-in-Blue-Jean.pdf
Thanks for sharing it. Interesting.
Oh I also have been learning about how to better control emotions, for me, especially negative ones. As you mentioned, acknowledging their existence and letting them go past.
think nothing.
So difficult to think nothing
but so worth it right?
Yes. Being able to control our minds. Let thoughts come and go.
I try to meditate 3 times a week. Some of the benefits are taking a step back to understand why you think a certain way.
The last time I meditated I was thinking a lot about when the timer would go off. It's an odd thought because I sat down to meditate not wait for a timer to go off. But while reflecting on my thinking I believe I wanted a sense of control. And I think the desire to control the future drives many of my thoughts. The thing is you there are things you can't control, like when a timer will go off. But this doesn't stop your brain from grasping for control.
Long answer but one of the things I've learned :)
It happened to me sometimes. 10 minutes, as I'm a beginner, is a lot of minutes :)
I'm also aiming to better control my nerves. I'd say I'm better than when started.
When did you start meditating?
I would say I started meditating regularly 3 years ago. I've gone through ups and downs. Its still challenging each time I sit down.
Ive only been doing it consistently(daily) for about a month and on and off for a couple of years, but for me the biggest benefit is a state of “presence”, that is, being in the moment - right now. Not thinking about past or future. It’s a relief.
The best way I can describe what it means for me, is that when I step back and examine my usual thoughts they’re mostly taken up by psychological time. I’m either imagining the future, mentally rehearsing what i might do or say, or conversely, ruminating on the past.. this is continual, non stop throughout the day and night until I go to sleep and even when I’m asleep I’m pretty sure I’m still caught up with thinking!
Meditation gives me some time to try and be present, where I’m focused on breathing and/or how I’m seated or how I feel physically at that moment.
At some point during meditation I‘ll suddenly find myself lost in thought and when I notice, it truely does feel like waking up from a dream. I then realise I’ve drifted off into thought without even knowing (and I’m typically lost in time again). This point is my favourite part of actual meditation.
Overall, since I’ve started meditating it’s helped me notice my continuous, aimless thinking and has helped me step back and not get so caught up with the day to day thought patterns or be over taken by the accompanying emotions.
I mostly like to meditate when I wake up in the morning as it helps me feel refreshed and calm and is very good if sleep wasn’t the best.
I realise how this all sounds, and I’m not some woke mindfulness hipster wannabe.. but this is pretty much how it is for me.
The simple exercise on the app, to be aware when we sit and get up, is so difficult to me.
Some things are so automatically done that we "take for granted" and are not present.
I think that's my challenge. When going for a walk, paying attention how I walk, the feelings etc. When getting up, noticing how the body feels, touches the ground, etc
Any recommendation for a Good voice leading meditation App?
I always find it hard personally to calm down/focus on myself without a voice in my ears 🤔
I like Joseph Goldstein who is a Meditation coach on the app 10% happier. You can find some old recordings, which are mostly poor quality, on YouTube - if you search for his name and “no coughing” you can find one in particular that has reasonable quality audio.
I've been using Headspace. Never tried without an app though. Must be hard
Thanks for the tip Leo!