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Why you need A co-founder? IT'S A LONELY RUN, SURVIVE IT.

A founder is a lonely position. A community builder is a position.

Run a startup is really hard. You will get upset, you will get stressed, you will get paranoid. Worst of all is most likely you won't share all these with anyone. It feels very lonely.

I always share the good emotions ASAP with my team and my family. I would literally facetime my dad and tell him about the progress I had made. But when things get stuck, I tend to not share it with anyone. I don't think sharing I am worried about something would help the situation, so I keep it down and keep looking for solutions. I think most of the founders have gone through this. We tend to feel the pressure a lot stronger than anyone else because your capacity is your product's capacity.

The only way to overcome any psychological difficulty in this game is to overcome the problem itself. When an obstacle is cleared and execution is executed, all these unhealthy feelings will go away.

Have a co-founder is a blessing, it made so much easier. I am not saying telling your unhealthy feeling to your co-founder, but work on the problem and get some input on the obstacle. Don't ever give your unhealthy emotion to your team, because it's the type of chicken and egg thing. When people see you down, they got affected as well. Simply be honest with the rest about what the problem is and work on it.

To my experience, two founder team is the best match. One is too hard to get through tough times. Three is too could work, four is too big. It's a war, you need people who you can trust to survive it. The bigger it gets, the less intimate it is.
In the end, I just wish everyone survive this war and keep fighting all the small battles.

on July 27, 2020
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    Important caveat: so many businesses die because co-founders aren't equally committed, even though they say they are.

    My advice is to make sure that you have a very healthy relationship outside of the business, ideally before you consider running a business together.

    It's like dating before you get married. Having a cofounder is like getting married, except it's often even more expensive and painful to break up a business than a marriage.

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      yeah nice tip to those youngsters out there man hahah.

      Good co-founders are hard to come by.

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    Working all alone in a project and finding a community that does the same, is the exact reason why I chose to follow this path. I couldn't agree more with you.

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      Yeah that sounds awesome man! How’s the project going?

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        It's been good, I would say. Where are you with your project?

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          I pivoted lol. Starting new

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            Oh,okay. Good luck with that!

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    My co-founder desert me just before the start of our business. Procrastination and some psicological issues took control of him. We'd been planning this since July 2019. Now I'm struggling alone with the business in this lonely road.