Self Development August 21, 2020

My Twenties vs My Thirties

John Saddington @8bit

Hey friends,

I published a somewhat rambling sequence of thoughts earlier this week as I surveyed what I thought my twenties were supposed to be versus what they actually became as well as what I thought my thirties were going to be about versus what it’s actually been like… if that makes any sense.

Some folks found this useful:

The TL;DR: is this:

My 20’s were about the WHAT while my 30’s have been about the WHY and the WHO — this has made all the difference.

So, hit me friends — does this resonate? What did you think your 20’s were supposed to be and what was it actually like and about? How have your 30’s been?

One thing is for sure: Who I am changes as often as the work that I do; as an artist and creative, this feels par for course.

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    I had a lot more what I would call "foolish" or naive self-belief in my early/mid 20s which got eroded through failures and then gradually rebuilt through accomplishments and modest successes in my late 20s and early 30s.

    In a weird way, I miss the outrageous confidence of my 20s when I'd decide to build a wearable - I got to know a lot of cool tailors in Beijing 😀
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    ...but this was basically madness.

    Now I pick my shots much more carefully. Time is more limited. I'm conscious that I'll probably start a family in the not-so-distant future.

    In my 20s I also learned what burnout was (not severe, but highly educational) and the process reminds me a bit of learning how much alcohol you can handle in your teens/college. I apply that on autopilot now in my 30s to avoid red-lineing my body and mind.

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      the awareness around time... is good stuff.

      and yes on "burnout"!

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    I am in my early twenties and yes, I do believe that what I am doing now, in this time, will act as stepping stones for my 30's (hopefully).

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    I'm 29 now, but will turn from 20s to 30s in just a couple of months. The line between 20s and 30s is a bit arbitrary of course, but I do see what you mean.

    A couple of years ago - I was all for the "personal-development / hard-working 60-hour-workweeks / you can do anything if you set your mind to it" - kind of lifestyle. I believed that a business will succeed as long as you work at it hard enough.

    Now, I realize I still want to build businesses, but I also want to have fun. I feel that I'm much more relaxed; I don't mind as much anymore if I didn't have a productive day — there's another one tomorrow. Same goes for catching myself procrastinating / hanging out with friends / or generally not working, you need this to stay sane.

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      the "relax" comment resonates a lot. i'm much more "chill" now. still have the fire, but, it's refined.

      love that!

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      i get them done by new artists that i meet on the internet... always try to try someone new!

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          have you connected with kiana who was helping me with some stuff for https://www.indiehackers.com/product/yenicorn

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                  ... 🤦🏻‍♂️

                  lol.

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